When we marry, we make a promise to stay with our spouse in sickness and in health, for better or for worse. That promise shouldn’t have to go out the door when one person in a couple has health issues and requires more assistance than their active, independent spouse.
“Loving couples who care about each other don’t want to be separated, especially in their senior years,” Kristine Tilton, Executive Director of Waterstone at Wellesley. “A senior living community like Waterstone at Wellesley is perfect for older couples because it enables them to stay together even if their care needs differ greatly from one another.”
Kristine says that – no surprise – it’s incredibly beneficial for older couples to live together when they make the move to a senior living community. “Holding on to those meaningful relationships allows us to maintain a high quality of life,” she says. “And what’s more important than the bond between spouses? Having solutions that let couples stay together can help them have greater happiness and health overall throughout the rest of their lives.”
One big benefit to moving into a place where both couples’ needs can be cared for is reducing the stress on the more independent spouse. Look at it this way: if a couple waits to move into senior living until the situation becomes untenable, this can be incredibly detrimental to their marriage. At that point, the more independent spouse has probably been caregiving for some time, which means that stress and anxiety of being a full-time caregiver is already in play and straining the relationship. Moving into a senior living community that provides both independent and assisted living options means that both spouses can relax, knowing that their needs will be met.
“Even if you and your spouse wait to move into a community when one of you needs more help than the other, you’ll see immediate benefits,” says Kristine. “You’ll get a surprising amount of independence back – both the healthy spouse and the one who requires assistance. Professional staff care for your needs, which leaves you all the time in the world to spend time together as a couple.”
If you and your spouse are considering senior living to help ease your life as you age, here are some tips from Waterstone at Wellesley to help you determine the right community for you:
Research your options.
As soon as possible, take a look at the options in your area to see what lifestyles can support you and your loved one. Talk to each other about what you want your senior years to look like and what sort of lifestyle would work best for you both. What care options do you want to be available? What sort of community vibe would you like?
Ask communities what their care policies are.
Some communities have specific living situations for those in independent living and those in assisted living. What happens if your loved one needs assisted living and you don’t? Can your loved one receive care services in your independent living apartment before a move to assisted living? Would it be better for your spouse to move directly to an assisted living apartment to receive the services needed? There’s no one right answer for this – it all depends on your comfort level and situation. At Waterstone at Wellesley, supportive services can be provided within independent living apartments – and there’s the added advantage of a full-service assisted living community right on site for those who are looking for the benefit of 24-hour care and assistance.
Don’t forget to look at your needs as a couple...
Caring for your physical needs are important, but don’t forget that moving to a community means moving into a place where you’ll be enjoying life. Besides looking at the care levels required, you and your spouse should research amenities, activities and other benefits of the community to make sure that it offers an exceptional quality of life for both parties. After all, getting the care you require is meant to help you live the life you want – so be sure you’re choosing a place where the life you live will be enjoyable.
...and as individuals.
You have lifestyle goals as a couple – but what about as an individual? Living in a senior living community instantly provides ample opportunities for activities and adventures you’ve been wanting to do for years. Not only is there a full social calendar and activities available, you will also find other individuals in the same age of life as you who are ready to make new friends and enjoy new pursuits. By encouraging and pursuing individual interests, you and your spouse will continue to grow as individuals … and as a couple.
“There are many things I love about working at Waterstone at Wellesley, but one of the biggest is watching happy, loving couples enjoying life together even when their care level needs are significantly different,” Kristine says. “I love to know that we’re handling the hardships for them – the things that would have significantly reduced their quality of life – and are instead giving them back all the time, energy and desire to explore this chapter of life together. What’s better than that?”
Beautiful Riverfront Community
Located on the banks of the Charles River, Waterstone is Wellesley’s only senior living community, offering premier independent and assisted living. But that’s only the first of many differences that sets Waterstone above and beyond other communities.
Celebrating Dynamic Living
Here our residents live independently in their own private, spacious apartments – but without any of the worries or concerns of homeownership or living alone. All meals are expertly prepared. There aren’t any chores to be concerned with. No home maintenance or repairs to worry about. Just opportunities around every corner and time to spend as they choose – in the company of new friends.
Our vibrant community encourages residents to engage in a variety of recreational, cultural and social programs and activities. Enjoy a fitness class. Swim in the sunny indoor pool. Take a stroll on a walking path. Partake in a favorite hobby or pastime. Discover a new interest. With Waterstone at Wellesley, there’s a world of opportunity waiting right outside our residents’ doors.
Confidence of Care
The hallmark of Waterstone assisted living is the peace of mind we provide both our residents and their families. Knowing that care and support is available right on site instills a sense of confidence and calm one can’t find living alone.
For prospective residents or their families interested in residing at Waterstone at Wellesley, please contact us at 781.591.7113